The Stereotype Project

My mom and I laid on her bed for an hour and a half tonight watching a little movie based off of the book “The Pregnancy Project”. Maybe you’ve heard of it? If not, you should probably look it up, I’d like to hear your feedback; if you have, I’m dying to know your opinions next to mine. Anyways, back to my mom and I.
So, as the credits began flashing on the screen and the dramatic music played, my mom turned to me, declaring that she needed time to think about it. Seems like a logical reacction after watching a movie about a girl who pretended to be pregnant for half of her senior year, all for a grade. In my usual teenage fashion, I still pushed her to state some sort of reaction, which turned into a full blown talk, which is now turning into me writing it out.
Let’s start here; I’m a Christian. I believe that God is my Lord and Savior. I believe that the Bible is His word and should be followed. I believe that everything happens for a reason and is all part of a grand and wonderful plan thought out by God. I also firmly believe that there is an evil, something to pull unsuspecting people away from what God has planned for us, most people just call this evil Satan. It’s a hard balance, trying to believe that I have a story written for me. I have a path. But, while following this beautiful path God has set me on, I also have to ignore the evil that constantly lingers and trys to pull me away.
This evil is the same evil that lingers on everyone’s life, even the pregnant teens wandering the halls of your high school. See, the way I see it, pregnancy is a choice. For one thing, you have to make the choice to have sex. After the decision to have sex, there is a decision whether you are going to make it “safe”, so called, or not. That’s a lot of decisions to make, if you really think about it, especially for a young teen. Going back to my stance on religion, I believe that having sex is a big deal and should be saved for the right person at the right time. Getting pregnant is a choice, not an accident.
The signifcance of teen girls getting pregnant is that it is such a big choice that it seems silly that someone at the small age of 16 should have to follow through with the choice. Yeah, maybe we think we have our life together but let’s get real, we dread that four hour shift at the minimum wage job and the fact that some of us can’t get a date to prom is our biggest issue. When an adult makes that choice, they are taking on the resonsibility, when a teenager makes that choice, they have a reputation of being unable to take on the resonsibility.
In this movie (and the book that was published before), the girl talks about stereotypes. She talks about how people thought she had this beautiful future and then she got pregnant. When she made this choice to get pregnant, she ruined any chance for a future, for her or her unborn child. Obviously, this isn’t completely wrong, you need the same instance to happen more than once for a stereotype to form. When she revealed that she, in fact, was not pregnant, she talked about the stereotypes that people put her in. She explained that stereotypes were boxes that people put us so we don’t have to deal with the real person.
Think about that for a minute. Think about stereotypes that people have put YOU in. Don’t they resemble a box? And what happens in that box that you are forced to live in? You start believing it. Pregnant or not, you have probably been placed in one of these boxes. Does it feel good? Doesn’t living in a box kinda limit your ideas and dreams?
When you see a pregnant teenager, what is your first thought? That she ruined her life? That she will never have a future, education, or normal life? That she shouldn’t get caught up with guys? Well, what if she looked at you? Who would she see? The box that people put you in, or your real self?
Before we stereotype and put people in boxes because of choice they’ve made or wrongs they’ve done, why don’t we look instead of choices they CAN make and wrongs they CAN right? Why don’t we look at a pregnant teenage girl and see that she needs help. A prayer, guidence, a good docter, just about everything. You can’t shame a person so much that they completely undo all the bad choices they’ve made, so why don’t we uplift people so much so that they can’t make those same bad choices again? Why don’t we pull ourselves out of these boxes that people put us in and be different?

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3 thoughts on “The Stereotype Project

  1. Hey, Ash! Thanks for telling me about your blog! Yeah, I agree with most of the points you make here and you wrote the post very well. πŸ™‚ The only thing I’m not sure about is when you said sex is a big deal and meant for the right person at the right time. Based on reading the Bible, the only right time for sex seems to be after marriage, regardless of age. Teen pregnancy is a big deal (and a big problem) but honestly I don’t think it’s any worse than a 25 year old woman being pregnant because of her boyfriend. What do you think?

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    1. I most definitely agree with you. A women’s (and a man’s for that matter) purity is not something to be messed with. That being said, my decision to save myself for is such a big deal and such a personal thing between God, the future husband, and myself, that I decided to keep things simple in the post. Obviously, I don’t want to hide that I want to stay pure until marriage nor am I ashamed of this decision, I just see it as super personal and a big decision between me and my Heavenly Father. Thank you for reading it! πŸ™‚

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